“This softness makes you incredibly insecure” | Columns and view

French

“My most used profile picture, also here on Vrouw, is one with a filter on. I still remember the day it was made. I was tired, but my hair day was so good. Can you lighten my frown?” I asked the photographer. He promised. The result was Amazing. It smoothed out not just my frown, but my entire face as well.”

new fact

“Where I’d normally be so critical of the aging process that keeps raging over my head, I’ve now taken this photo for the new truth: It was just me! I instantly changed my picture on Twitter and Facebook; until my entire followers knew that with 44 of my It dried well.My 17-year-old daughter finished my dream. “It’s not you in that picture, Mom.”

unnatural

Suddenly I don’t like her honesty anymore. Thankfully, she continued, “I don’t need this at all.” But that image is still all over the place, because putting it all back together is something I notice. Photo shop; Why is this even there? You seldom get away with unseen punishment, because let’s be honest: irregularities emanate from the screen.”

The real life

“You pretend to be more beautiful than you, which in turn makes the viewer have to object. Also a photoshopped image. And so we all come up with versions of ourselves that are increasingly removed from reality. I’ve interviewed countless women I’ve only seen on social media. socializing before seeing them in real life.” “Oh, that’s what they look like in real life,” I guess, when I met them. Well, since I was using a taut profile picture, they must have thought the same.”

sad

It seems like we’re all becoming more and more insecure about what’s normal. You can hardly get her much thinner than Nikkie Plessen however I found it necessary to adjust her legs a bit. What signal are you sending with that? How embarrassing to hear from my 17-year-old daughter that I’m having enough fun without a filter? Cosmetic procedures are becoming more and more natural, and leaving photography is no longer a problem: of course you make yourself a little more beautiful than you were in real life. It’s very sad, isn’t it? “

Oma

“I still think about my grandmother a lot. I think “what would he have done with this?” She died before the social media frenzy started and I don’t think I could have explained it to her.” I made myself 10 years younger with a computer program, grandma. Or: “She has her lips so full that she has the same mouth as all her friends.” My grandmother was looking at me with wide eyes and shrugged her shoulders in confusion. She was right. We don’t.

throw it away

“Nikkie Plessen tells her story with a laugh that she’s not very good at PhotoShop and I buy my distorted photo with the illustration in this column and get back in order today. But really, we all have to decide never to use this backward software again. Filters gone, I went shopping, I went photo Unrealistic. That would help each other tremendously, because it makes you feel incredibly insecure, all that soft with someone else and with yourself.”